As Good as the First Time

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Each Shot of Satisfaction is related to one of the seven steps back from burnout in the process of REFLECT. My hope is that, by sharing with you how I apply these steps in my daily life, it will help you on your journey to a fulfilling life of caregiving.

Originally published October 28th, 2011 – This Shot of Satisfaction relates to Step 7 – TAKE CARE of yourself. Restore and renew yourself by applying the quantum skills you’ve learned to energize and elevate every part of your life. Apply the tools of transformation so that you can transcend your present limitations.


As good as the first time

Our work is not necessarily doing what we “know.”  Our work is to take off the blinders of our experience, of what we think we know, and see the world with fresh eyes and an open heart. – Dr. Frank

“To get something you’ve never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.”
-Dr. Shaun Marier

Even when things are good, we all want more. We’re all looking for more satisfaction in our work, our health, our finances and our relationships. We believe things could be better. The question is: How do we get what we believe we can have? What work do we need to do to get what we really want?

In our business, experience is a great teacher. As we gain experience, we come to recognize which patients require critical attention and when we need to act quickly. We believe we know how best to handle things. We become less and less open to new ideas or techniques. In our case, experience can be dangerous because it limits us, especially when we think we know best.

When we apply what we think should work to our present situation and we do not get the results we want, we complain and long for “the good old days.” We say life was simpler then, better, more predictable and easier. We say the system is broken now. We dream about what could have been and we resign ourselves to settling for less, for what is rather than what could be.

Think about what it was like when we were younger and had big dreams. We were ready to take on any challenge to change the world. We weren’t discouraged by what was “impossible.” When we wanted something, we put our nose to the grindstone and did whatever it took to make it happen. The diploma, the car, the girl, the job – we got it and it felt great! Yes, we made mistakes along the way, but we ultimately got what we wanted by continually changing our formula until we were successful.

Most of us now have what we thought we wanted, but we are left wanting more. We find ourselves wondering: Is this all there is? Is this as good as it gets?

We think we know what “should” work. But our old formula isn’t working in our present situation, leaving us feeling frustrated and blaming other people and circumstances for our lack of satisfaction. So we fall into a rut and no matter how hard we work, nothing seems to change. Nothing seems to get better and we can’t seem to find the “more” from life that we want.

Maybe, just maybe, we are doing the wrong work. Truth be told, the system does work – and if we are not getting the results we want, there must be something wrong with our now outdated formula.

If what we are doing isn’t working for us anymore, it’s time for change. If I have said it once, I have said it a thousand times; if we do not have what we want out of life, we simply are not doing the work we need to do to get it. Our work is not necessarily just doing what we “know.” Our work is also to continually take off the blinders of our experience, of what we think we know, and to see the world with fresh eyes and an open heart.

Einstein said the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. When we are continually feeling frustrated in dealing with others, we just have to choose to stop and let go of whatever it is we automatically say or do, and choose instead to look for a way to respond differently.

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We need to let our desire for more, for something better, lead us to continually re-create a new personal formula that works for us right now and gets us what we want. When we do this, it is like getting it for the very first time, and there is nothing sweeter than this kind of success!  Br recognizing what’s not working and changing our formula until it does, we become the cause of something better for ourselves and those around us.

TAKE ACTION

Today, let go of what you think you know; what is familiar, what is comfortable! Loosen your grip and open your hands so that you can grab something new, novel,  unprecedented and much better.

Be willing to do whatever it takes to get what you want. Engage all of your wisdom, your insight, your desire for more, your resourcefulness and your power and inject it into what you are doing. BE OPEN to doing it differently. Use a new approach or a different tactic.

Experience and engage with your relationships, your work, your finances or your health as if it was for the very first time. There is absolutely nothing better when you see (y)our world with new eyes!

Make this a new day, a fresh week, an innovative month, and your best year ever!  Make right now just like “the good old days.”

All the best!
Dr. Frank

 

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