Each Shot of Satisfaction is related to one of the seven steps back from burnout in the process of REFLECT. My hope is that, by sharing with you how I apply these steps in my daily life, it will help you on your journey to a fulfilling life of caregiving.
Originally published November 18th, 2009 – This Shot of Satisfaction relates to Step 1 -REMEMBER what you came here for. Reconnect with your desire to care. Remember what you want from your work: the feeling good that comes from truly caring for others.
How can tomorrow be better?
“We must embrace pain and burn it as fuel for our journey.”
The Emergency Department is a great place to work, mostly because of YOU, and the team that cares a lot!
There is one person who has been with me on the journey to develop Clear2Care. She has stood by me since the beginning—encouraging and supporting me. That person is my assistant, Cheryl Kolesar. She wholeheartedly supports Clear2Care’s singular mission: To remind the brave souls who work in chaotic emergency departments everywhere who they are and to reconnect them to their pure desire to help others when their help is needed most.
Cheryl is facing a personal crisis right now. She is currently battling a rare cancer. Although she has already undergone major surgery, this weekend she bravely cut her hair, went into the hospital, and had a power port installed. Cheryl is now receiving three days of intense chemotherapy to kill off any remaining cancer cells in her body. When that is through, she will undergo more cycles of toxic chemotherapy to rid her body of the malignant cells that threaten her life.
If there is one thing I know for certain, it is this: There is no greater healing force in this world than a human who can truly feel (if even for a moment) the pain of another. Feeling the pain of someone else, and having the true desire to make it go away, can create miracles.
As Cheryl faces a life threatening challenge this weekend, I can honestly say that I feel her pain as if it were my own. I faced the same feelings of helplessness and hopelessness, when I was diagnosed with cancer. I remember feeling totally abandoned and lost. I remember begging God for help, for healing, and for another chance at life.
Looking back at that critical point in my own life, I realize that my prayer was backwards. I wanted God to spare me from the cancer, to take it away from me, to change my reality so that I did not have to go through the surgeries, the chemo, and the long healing process. Today, I realize that my prayer would have been much more effective if I had asked God for the strength to proactively move through the process to the other side as a whole, healthy and happy individual.
No doubt, I am a changed man because of my journey through illness. The journey was one of the most difficult things I have ever had to endure. But looking back, I would not change a thing. I see there were blessings delivered through the curses. … Today, I am a better version of myself—a happier, more humble, more grateful version of the man I was.
While Cheryl may not be in the emergency room, her life is still in a state of emergency. I know she is in intense pain right now. There is only one thing that I can do, and that is pray that God will provide her with the strength to be full of hope. I can meditate for Cheryl to have the endurance to triumph and embrace whatever lesson this disease is here to show her. And I can envision the day when she will once again feel whole and alive.
I would like to ask: Can you feel her pain? Even though you don’t know her, can you care for her and for those that are going through a similar process? I would like to ask you to please make an effort to connect to her, and others like her, and send them your healing energy. Thank you.
Today, appreciate your life. See your blessings. Realize how lucky you are. Any one of us can have our lives threatened by an illness.
I would like to invite you to try something powerful. Stop and practice TRUECARE by putting the needs of another, someone you don’t even know, in front of your own. Take a moment, and in whatever way you experience your world view, please pray and/or meditate for Cheryl or someone like her.
Just wish the best for them. Ask your higher power to help them, to comfort them, to lead them through their personal despair and to give them the strength they will need to face the challenges that come their way. Envision them as a healthy individual so that they can face a future that is bright.
See how powerful your prayer can be when there is no personal agenda attached, when you want nothing in return. Just desire the best for another person. No doubt, many blessings will show up in your own life as well.
Thank you with all my heart,