Each Shot of Satisfaction is related to one of the seven steps back from burnout in the process of REFLECT. My hope is that, by sharing with you how I apply these steps in my daily life, it will help you on your journey to a fulfilling life of caregiving.
Originally published November 30th, 2009
This Shot of Satisfaction relates to Step 1 -REMEMBER what you came here for. Reconnect with your desire to care. Remember what you want from your work: the feeling good that comes from truly caring for others.
The power to create miracles
“The Tao Te Ch’ing says, ‘When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be. When I let go of what I have, I receive what I need.’”
–Mary Manin Morrissey
The power to create miracles
We just entered one of the most magical times of the year. Many consider this the month of miracles. A miracle is an event or effect that appears inexplicable by the laws of nature and is considered supernatural in origin. Wouldn’t it be great if we could see miracles of healing as a result of our care every day?
So what gets in our way? It’s us. Why? One of our challenges to feeling satisfaction on the job is our need for appreciation – from our managers, our patients, our patient’s families and even each other.
Why the desire for a pat on the back? Some days we are just plain needy. The problem is, it’s difficult to give when you are empty. Subconsciously, we allow our emptiness to cause us to act in ways that are unhealthy. If we were confident and self-assured, we would not have the need to be thanked or appreciated. We would not seek assurance from others.
Our unconscious need for the “Thank you,” for the “Wow,” for the “You’re so great,” causes our agenda to get in the way. If we are dependent on the approval to feel good, then we really have nothing to give. We show up as takers, wanting to take from our patients.
It is all right to like the “Thank you,” or to love the appreciation. But nothing in this world will ever give us fulfillment if we are dependent on it. If we can only be happy when we have a million dollars in the bank, then we are probably doomed to a life of sadness. If our happiness is dependent on another, we will never be satisfied by the relationship.
So how can we get satisfaction? Let go of the kudos!
Obstacles to our satisfaction give us the opportunity to stop and, instead of going with the automatic reaction, inject a thinking and feeling response to the situation. That heart-felt response is how we become the cause of our own satisfaction. When we rise above our reactive nature, we enter the miracle zone, where we can expect the unexpected.
Today, whenever you are feeling under-appreciated, under-paid, under-loved, or just plain needy, recognize it for what it is: an obstacle. Let go of your need for the kudos! Find a way to give care anyway. See if something miraculous happens!
Miracles and blessings,